This title statement was made by Kimora Lee Simons in an episode of "Life in the Fab Lane" on the Style Network. No joke, I am quoting Kimora Lee Simons. In that particular episode, Simmons interviewed candidates for a personal assistant job, and she uttered those pearls of wisdom to the young woman who landed the gig. Watching the show is like watching "My Super Sweet 16" on MTV - they give me hives but I can't stop scratching the itch.
TEACHERS - do you smile much or at all in school? while teaching? while talking to students? parents? (Thanks to blogger/teacher frumteacher's "First Day" post for inspiring this topic.)
I think the bottom line is do your best with what's natural to your personality, and work it into the job. I'm a major smiler in "real life", so I smile when I greet students and they greet me back (I won't bother when they won't even make eye contact), I smile when I'm enthusiastic about a topic, I smile when I want to encourage or reassure ... it feels good to smile, and I actually believe that generally people respond positively when they are smiled AT.
I smile when I feel like smiling. The inclination to smile does not interfere with classroom management. I spell out the rules and consequences, follow through, and students get it. I've had 2 students (in 4 years) complain about how I "seem" nice then turn around and be "strict" - I was happy to explain action and reaction, rules and consequences, etc.
I know some of you teachers save the smiles for ... something really really special maybe? Please explain how you work it... :)